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Why am I single? (Not a whinge)
I met up with a nice girl today. We got on okay but there was no sparkage. Had a nice time, so this is all fine but I'd rally like to know why.
This isn't a whinge or a whine? I'm pretty okay with this at the moment. I'm mainly confused about it. More to the point it frequently causes me problems and I'd like to be able to solve it.
I'm reasonably good looking, I'm intelligent, can make people laugh, charming, have good prospects, give good hugs and have warm hands and feet. Often guys with none of these attributes seem to have more luck than me. Guys with many of them often seem to have less luck than me. Clearly these factors are completely irrelevant.
I have been asked on a number of occasions how I'm still single. This is always by girls who are not remotely interested in me.
It's all very odd.
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This isn't a whinge or a whine? I'm pretty okay with this at the moment. I'm mainly confused about it. More to the point it frequently causes me problems and I'd like to be able to solve it.
I'm reasonably good looking, I'm intelligent, can make people laugh, charming, have good prospects, give good hugs and have warm hands and feet. Often guys with none of these attributes seem to have more luck than me. Guys with many of them often seem to have less luck than me. Clearly these factors are completely irrelevant.
I have been asked on a number of occasions how I'm still single. This is always by girls who are not remotely interested in me.
It's all very odd.
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Be more mature.
Your livejournal is very purple. I think davethehobbit was right when he once said to me that everyone goes through a purple phase, usually when your 17. It's the colour teenage girls paint their bedrooms, it's too bright, too close to pink and doesn't seem very sophisticated.
Your icon is a cuddly toy. Yes it's very cutesy and all of that, but cutesy isn't sexy. You need to develop more sophisticated tastes and appearance. I know this is only what i can see online because we only see each other about once a year, but online is where you meet alot of people. Maybe try to come across as a mature man in his late twenties early thirties, sensible, responsible and not the sort of chap who when you get back to his student-like flat, has a bed full of stuffed animals. You might live in a palace for all i know, but it's the impression you make that counts. Once you're past that all important first impression, these things matter less.
oops...
Then again this is partly 'cause there were many crap options when I set it up & I can't be arsed to change it now! lol
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However i don't think mature sophisticated man in his early 30's is the look you're going for. Youth and girlyness are things that sit much better on women, cutesy can be appealing in women, it has obviosly worked for you.
It occurs to me that shineyjenni would be a good match for Neil, i don't know if you know her. But she would need someone confident because she can be very quiet when she wants to be.
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And yes, met ShineyJenni. Seems nice but rather quiet.
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Yes, she is very quiet, but if you get her one on one and talk to her she's lovely, a librarian as far as i'm aware and a Dr Who geek.
I don't think she's shy, just someone who prefers to listen.
Just a thought.
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:)
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