Why am I single? (Not a whinge)

[luckykaa]

I met up with a nice girl today.  We got on okay but there was no sparkage.  Had a nice time, so this is all fine but I'd rally like to know why. 

This isn't a whinge or a whine?  I'm pretty okay with this at the moment.  I'm mainly confused about it.  More to the point it frequently causes me problems and I'd like to be able to solve it.

I'm reasonably good looking, I'm intelligent, can make people laugh, charming, have good prospects, give good hugs and have warm hands and feet.  Often guys with none of these attributes seem to have more luck than me.  Guys with many of them often seem to have less luck than me.  Clearly these factors are completely irrelevant.

I have been asked on a number of occasions how I'm still single.  This is always by girls who are not remotely interested in me.

It's all very odd.

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Comments

[luckykaa.livejournal.com]

Yes, but I'm not sure I can really change that and still be true to who I am. I can put less emphasis on the childish things I like certainly but I can't choose not to enjoy them.

And yes, met ShineyJenni. Seems nice but rather quiet.

[invisigoth51.livejournal.com]

It's only for first impressions.
Yes, she is very quiet, but if you get her one on one and talk to her she's lovely, a librarian as far as i'm aware and a Dr Who geek.
I don't think she's shy, just someone who prefers to listen.
Just a thought.

[luckykaa.livejournal.com]

I think she's very much my type but isn't this the sort of thing we want to avoid? "Look - a geeky female. Must flirt!!!"

:)

[invisigoth51.livejournal.com]

I'm not suggesting you do.... just when you meet people like that, take the time to get to know them, you never know what might happen.