Why am I single? (Not a whinge)

[luckykaa]

I met up with a nice girl today.  We got on okay but there was no sparkage.  Had a nice time, so this is all fine but I'd rally like to know why. 

This isn't a whinge or a whine?  I'm pretty okay with this at the moment.  I'm mainly confused about it.  More to the point it frequently causes me problems and I'd like to be able to solve it.

I'm reasonably good looking, I'm intelligent, can make people laugh, charming, have good prospects, give good hugs and have warm hands and feet.  Often guys with none of these attributes seem to have more luck than me.  Guys with many of them often seem to have less luck than me.  Clearly these factors are completely irrelevant.

I have been asked on a number of occasions how I'm still single.  This is always by girls who are not remotely interested in me.

It's all very odd.

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Comments

[countesszero.livejournal.com]

Ok, without being rude, let's look at you from the perspective of a woman, and what I thought of you the first time I met you.

1) You're a geek. Most women don't like geeks unless they are geeks themselves.

2) You're a LARPer. You told me this within ten minutes of me meeting you. Might not want to let that one out of the bag. Ever. Most 'normal' girls would laugh in your face and run a mile.

3) You're way too quiet. And your 'charming' can come across as slightly creepy sometimes. You are nice, yes, but you look at women in a way that can be perceived as a bit, um, weird? Sorry, I can't explain it any better, but you can make girls feel a little uncomfortable when you look at them. As for your looks, you're not my type so I can't really comment properly.

The things I look for in a man are confidence, nicely dressed, nice eyes, nice smile and not a clingy freak that wants to hold your hand every five seconds. Equally I don't like guys that talk to my tits or feel me up. I like intelligent guys and I like someone that I can have a good debate with. I really can't help you because I don't know the kind of girls you like, but I'm guessing I'm not your type at all, I'm probably too much of a ball-buster.

Argh, these aren't meant to be insults so don't take them as such. Think of them as advice from a female friend who's trying to help you. I don't know how you can solve the whole being single thing, that's up to you, but yeah.

I'ma shut up now.

[luckykaa.livejournal.com]

Well, if they don't like geeks they'll never be interested in me and so I don't care about them, so don't care about #1. As for #2, well, I probably let you know that because I know at last some of your friends are LARPers. I don't usually reveal that one right at the start.

#3. Thanks. That's useful stuff. Will have to work out how to look at women differently. Eye contact has always been a bit of a problem for me.