Why am I single? (Not a whinge)

[luckykaa]

I met up with a nice girl today.  We got on okay but there was no sparkage.  Had a nice time, so this is all fine but I'd rally like to know why. 

This isn't a whinge or a whine?  I'm pretty okay with this at the moment.  I'm mainly confused about it.  More to the point it frequently causes me problems and I'd like to be able to solve it.

I'm reasonably good looking, I'm intelligent, can make people laugh, charming, have good prospects, give good hugs and have warm hands and feet.  Often guys with none of these attributes seem to have more luck than me.  Guys with many of them often seem to have less luck than me.  Clearly these factors are completely irrelevant.

I have been asked on a number of occasions how I'm still single.  This is always by girls who are not remotely interested in me.

It's all very odd.

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Comments

[invisigoth51.livejournal.com]

This is going to sound like a list of insults... basically if you are honestly asking this question, all your female friends can do is tell you why they personally wouldn't go for you. These same things will not be true for all women. Also please bear in mind that i do like you as a friend and am myself very picky.

1. Your accent or way you talk - have you considered having voice coaching? You tend to *sound* really creepy and lecherous right from the start, also a bit stuck up.
2. You do come across as a bit creepy, way too intense, you smile a little crazy all the time.
3. You're not confident in your own skin, you act and move like you're not quite sure where all your limbs are, also you hunch, if you are tall, stand tall.
4. Something hard to pin down, a sort of nervous energy, i often feel like i wouldn't be suprised if you burst into maniacle laughter.

The overall effect for me is of someone not confident, who doesn't really know what he's doing but thinks too much of himself and isn't really interested in girls as people more as GIRLS with captital letters and boobs! Who's going to be clingy and needy.

STOP looking for a girlfriend.
START looking after yourself and getting more confident.
Spend more time with female friends and try to see women only as friends first.
Someone will come along when you are not trying too hard and will be able to see you as the person you are rather than what you sometimes come across as.
Possibly spend some time with your more successful male friends and talk to them about their attitudes and experiances.

Don't worry about avoiding geekiness - i know plenty of male geeks and gamers who i wouldn't kick out of bed, and not all of them are traditional stunners - they are just happy in themselves and who they are and just chat to me like a friend and an equal without any overtures or anything... sexy as hell.

Sorry that is not what you wanted to hear because these are not easy things to change, but this is just why i personally don't fancy you.... there is someone for everyone and there will be women who thinks all of the above is rubbish.

[luckykaa.livejournal.com]

No, that is what I wanted to hear.

I mean it's not like I can fix anything if I don't know what I need to fix.